tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post5038145403345512306..comments2023-07-21T03:00:15.795-07:00Comments on Jeri’s Organizing & Decluttering News: Reader Question: One is Messy, One is NotJeri Danskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01647833266269245240noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-89534570018607533592011-02-17T01:11:32.861-08:002011-02-17T01:11:32.861-08:00I agree with you, Jeri, and RoseAG about the value...I agree with you, Jeri, and RoseAG about the value of a housekeeper. Ours comes only once a month, but it's often enough to make sure we don't allow things to get out of control. Much, much cheaper than therapy!Cynthia Friedlobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09978906730879859213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-2547782043255351142011-02-12T15:22:46.774-08:002011-02-12T15:22:46.774-08:00RoseAG, I agree that hiring a housecleaner can be ...RoseAG, I agree that hiring a housecleaner can be money well spent. See my post on the book <a href="http://jdorganizer.blogspot.com/2007/08/housekeeper-is-cheaper-than-divorce.html" rel="nofollow">A Housekeeper is Cheaper Than a Divorce</a>.<br /><br />I've got ongoing clients who also have a housecleaner, and we help in different but complementary ways.Jeri Danskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01647833266269245240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-85954858673533581482011-02-12T14:46:14.025-08:002011-02-12T14:46:14.025-08:00My husband and I have different ideas about what&#...My husband and I have different ideas about what's clutter and what isn't. <br /><br />Neither of us is perfect. I'm prone to hanging onto too many things "just in case." He's prone to throwing EVERYTHING out, which is not always the optimal way of doing things. <br /><br />Our lives improved considerably when we brought Marta, a housekeeper, into our lives. She comes regularly and before she comes we have to pick, collect dirty laundry and put clean laundry away. <br /><br />We still have some areas of clutter but being on a regular schedule for getting things picked up enough so the vacuum can be run and the kitchen counters cleared off keeps things from getting too out of hand.<br /><br />She does not cost more than thearpy, and un-like thearpy, we've got a clean house as the result! So remember that "professional" help is not just one-shot organizers.RoseAGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01360864547510178832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-54119411045693984352011-02-12T13:16:28.122-08:002011-02-12T13:16:28.122-08:00Lots of interesting comments here - thank you all ...Lots of interesting comments here - thank you all for sharing your insights and experiences.Jeri Danskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01647833266269245240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-43224127628592660322011-02-10T08:19:59.708-08:002011-02-10T08:19:59.708-08:00I forgot to add - about scouting out the clutter s...I forgot to add - about scouting out the clutter situation before things get too serious. It's amazing how much someone can hide during the inital stages of a relationship. Maybe an apartment full of clutter, not so much. But definitely expectations of who does what can be hidden for quite a while.JustGailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08948391538309176039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-25743484616579714662011-02-10T08:15:40.319-08:002011-02-10T08:15:40.319-08:00All good advice, Jeri. I'd also add to ask if...All good advice, Jeri. I'd also add to ask if it's the actual mess that's bothering you, or if it's the though of what others are thinking about it (and you). <br /><br />I'm not saying to give up, but maybe the clutter isn't the real issue. And yes, clutter and household maintenance in general should be part of pre-marital counseling, not just "kids yes or no?".JustGailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08948391538309176039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-21227244037439663052011-02-10T08:15:05.495-08:002011-02-10T08:15:05.495-08:00Great topic and I agree with Cynthia: it's wel...Great topic and I agree with Cynthia: it's well worth scouting out the other person's living style, early in a relationship!Pauline Wileshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15387098614220322595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-58039202819408062432011-02-09T17:42:33.611-08:002011-02-09T17:42:33.611-08:00Recently I met a young man at an open house for th...Recently I met a young man at an open house for the adult school where I teach an uncluttering workshop. He told me that he was currently casually dating two women and he was eager to see their homes because if either one was messy, the other one would be his choice to continue to date! He is adamant about having no clutter in his home.<br /><br />I wonder if the divorce rate would go down if the pre-marriage discussions of seriously dating couples included the clutter issue in addition to whether or not they wanted to have kids!Cynthia Friedlobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12678323220024869277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-8634573203578122962011-02-09T10:47:56.907-08:002011-02-09T10:47:56.907-08:00Great advice, Jeri (naturally!). It usually boils ...Great advice, Jeri (naturally!). It usually boils down to clear communication, kindness, remembering you're in this together, and finding solutions that support both of you -- all of which your suggestions incorporate.Claire Josefinehttp://www.ClaireJosefine.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-62118981619429157732011-02-09T09:51:47.182-08:002011-02-09T09:51:47.182-08:00Great advice, Jeri!
Suggesting a professional is ...Great advice, Jeri!<br /><br />Suggesting a professional is good! Hey, if we don't toot our own horns, who will? We all have to make a living! <br /><br />I, personally, would love to hire a professional. I just can't afford it, and we live in the boonies! :)<br /><br />My husband and I don't have this problem. We are both messy! LOL!MarySeeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05541149973913858130noreply@blogger.com