tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post6546032333477813156..comments2023-07-21T03:00:15.795-07:00Comments on Jeri’s Organizing & Decluttering News: After a Death: Dealing with a Loved One's PossessionsJeri Danskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01647833266269245240noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-9544725993115572872013-02-05T15:27:49.059-08:002013-02-05T15:27:49.059-08:00I just recently lost both parents within 3 months ...I just recently lost both parents within 3 months of each other and now have the daunting task of trying to find legal papers (amongst the socks & underwear) and downsize<br />My son & I moved in with them 2 yrs ago to care for mom so it's 2 houses worth of STUFF!!!! OMGAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-20849122139410573132012-06-29T10:53:48.214-07:002012-06-29T10:53:48.214-07:00Thanks for this information. I think this is one ...Thanks for this information. I think this is one of those things no one likes to think about, let alone prepare for.<br /><br />Your cat gives me a giggle in the photo - he doesn't look too thrilled with his companion.JustGailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08948391538309176039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-8938008383585649722012-06-28T05:38:47.244-07:002012-06-28T05:38:47.244-07:00Hi Jeri,
Thank you for drawing attention to this ...Hi Jeri,<br /><br />Thank you for drawing attention to this sensitive topic, which, sadly, everyone has to deal with at one time or another.<br /><br />My coauthor and I wrote a book about the process of downsizing a home (with special attention to the situation of doing so in the wake of losing a loved one) http://www.amazon.com/Moving-On-Practical-Downsizing-Family/dp/1584793236 <br /><br />One of the main pieces of advice we came across as we talked to people who had been through this experience was, as you and some of your readers have pointed out, the importance of taking enough time for the process. This can help an awful lot to minimize stress and help things go more smoothly.<br /><br />We now have a blog, Downsizing the Home: Lessons Learned http://downsizingthehome.wordpress.com<br />where we post regularly on a variety of topics related to downsizing, from very practical issues to emotional ones. I hope that you and some of your readers will visit us there, share your experiences and insights, and hopefully also find some helpful tips and advice.Janet Hulstrandhttp://downsizingthehome.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-55400302625444590692012-06-28T05:16:10.974-07:002012-06-28T05:16:10.974-07:00Jeri - Thank you so much for sharing my article/po...Jeri - Thank you so much for sharing my article/post about Organizing After a Loss. As you know, I wrote that after I lost my Mom, and am so thankful that it is helpful to people that may be going through a loss and need guidance. Means a lot to me! Warmly ~ LisaLisa Montanarohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211830951167927087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-40313305100401497322012-06-27T18:41:23.403-07:002012-06-27T18:41:23.403-07:00Very helpful information. It's great to know t...Very helpful information. It's great to know that the common underlying theme is to take things at your own pace. So many of my clients feel the pressure, and they just have to be reassured that it's okay to take the time to remember and cherish.Michael Tanneryhttp://www.mt-org.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-74686045740859726312012-06-27T11:43:25.212-07:002012-06-27T11:43:25.212-07:00Reiki Doc, I'm so glad this was helpful to you...Reiki Doc, I'm so glad this was helpful to you. You make a good point that "being ready" applies to any decision-making about one's stuff — not just the decisions we make after the death of a loved one.<br /><br />Sure, feel free to repost, as long as you credit me and link back to this post; see my copyright notice along the right-hand side of the page.Jeri Danskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01647833266269245240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4238401484560614586.post-71821722425909890762012-06-27T11:09:52.741-07:002012-06-27T11:09:52.741-07:00Jeri, Thank you so much for this post. My mother w...Jeri, Thank you so much for this post. My mother went through some major decluttering about seven years ago. I had a newborn, and I felt overwhelmed enough without getting into dealing with all of her stuff. I put it away, as best as I could, and only started to deal with it this year. You are right, so right, about being 'ready'. I was not 'ready' to accept my mother's gifts, because it brought us both one step closer to her passing. I am still not ready for THAT yet, but at least I understand her motivation to share special treasures with us while she is still in good health. A very worthwhile topic. May I repost?Reiki Dochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10331088820027387570noreply@blogger.com